Are your relationships aligned with your soul’s highest purpose? In this Valentine’s Day special, Julie speaks with Jillian Turecki about her new book and her profound insights on building soulful love and deep connection. Jillian shares spiritual wisdom on how self-love is the foundation for nurturing meaningful relationships and the role of emotional alignment in true partnership. They explore how the challenges we face in love are divine opportunities for growth, healing, and awakening. Tune in to discover how to open your heart, strengthen your bonds, and create relationships that align with your soul’s journey.

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Your angels and I can’t wait to connect with you! 🌟 HERE’S WHAT YOUR ANGELS WANT YOU TO KNOW TODAY! Day 16 of 31 Miracles: Today is all about strengthening and trusting your intuition. Your Spirit Team is guiding you to connect with your inner wisdom and build confidence in the messages you receive. Trust that this divine guidance is always positive and loving. Practice tuning in and let your angels help you navigate your soul’s path with clarity and grace.

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Julie: [00:00:00] Welcome back to the angels and awakening podcast. I’m your host and author, Julie Jancius. Friends. I almost have this new podcast studio done. Can’t wait to hop back on the professional mic with you. Sorry about the quality the last couple of weeks, just with these intros and outros, but I wanted to let you know this spirit said it is time for you.

step into your power by stepping into your gifts. Friends, I was thinking about this and meditating. I remember this moment of working in my old corporate career and praying God universe source. I know that there’s something else. for me and right, this is just in 2015, 10 years ago, and I would just pray.

And I, what I would hear back is there is step into your gifts. I would see myself [00:01:00] working one on one with other people. I knew that I was supposed to be leading groups. I knew that I was. I knew that I was supposed to be speaking. I didn’t know exactly where to start with all of that. I didn’t know if that meant that I needed to go back to school, but really where spirit called me is where spirit is calling you and friends.

There was nothing like what spirit was showing me. That I needed at the time. So I had to go through program after program and certification after certification to get everything that I needed and what the angels wanted for you is to not have to do all of that. To just have one place where you can develop your gifts of being able to bring through messages.

I was just telling somebody today in a reading, energy is the language of the universe. And what I teach in my Angel Reiki school [00:02:00] is that when you tune into the language of the universe, you know how to work with it. I can get you to this next point where you are now thinking, speaking from the intuition and not from the monkey mind.

And once I can get you there with your angels, the next place that I can have you reach is who’s bringing that message through. Is it your loved ones on the other side? Is it an angel? Which angel? Which loved one? And that is The way in which you step into your power to develop your gifts and really maximize your potential in this world.

I’m not saying you this for you. I’m saying this for me. One of the things that I think about almost every single day of my life because I live my life with God is I think about, and I pray. God, universe [00:03:00] source. I don’t want to get to heaven one day and look back at my life and say, I could have done more.

I could have given more. I could have been more. I could have helped where I could have shown more people the way I want to do everything in my power to be everything that I can in this lifetime. And so if you’re looking for a home, a sacred space, of love where you don’t have to have any previous experience to just come on in and I will teach you everything.

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What spirit is saying to so many people is that the job that you’re doing now, you might simultaneously do with becoming a healer yourself. And if you don’t step into your powers, but you know, the angels are calling you to. They can’t bring you into that next phase. For example, I was just doing this reading tonight for a woman and spirit was saying, you’re going to stay in this piece of [00:05:00] work that you’re doing right now.

And then you’re also going to step into your power as a healer. And in 10 to 12 years, you’re going to be perfectly aligned with this new position in the career you’re already in. That’s going to need healers like you. That’s what I mean. The angels are calling to you for not for like vanity sake or not because of any other reason than you’re needed.

You are needed and what your angels need from you. is to answer the call. So if you feel called sign up over at the angel medium. com. If you have any questions, email me. When you sign up before March 15th, you get the eight week online and the in person tuition all for the same price. And friends, what I’m going to [00:06:00] do at the end is put a little mini meditation today to just help you tune into your angels and the purpose that they’re calling you toward to, to, towards, I love you friends.

Here’s the episode of the day. I hope you love it. Hello, beautiful souls. Welcome back to the angels and awakening podcast. I’m your host and author Julie Jancius friends today We have an amazing treat for this valentine’s day episode. We have Jillian Tarecki here You probably know her from her new book or her instagram account It begins with you the nine hard truths about love that will change your life Jillian welcome to the show.

Jillian: Oh, thank you so much for having me 

Julie: Oh, I’m so excited. You know, there’s so many notes that I wrote down, just so many powerful quotes, um, that I can’t wait to dive into today, because whether a person’s in a relationship, they can take that relationship to a deeper [00:07:00] level, or if somebody’s looking for a relationship, this is going to set them up for success, our conversation today.

And your book is just so packed with just A ha moment after a ha moment, um, one of the things that you said that I was like, Oh, I got to write that down verbatim. A story within your head has the power to completely destroy a relationship or reform it.

Yes. 

Jillian: You know, our, our, um, our minds are story making machines and we are meaning making machines. And we could easily, um, create a story, you know, an assumption about someone. Um, uh, you know, if they loved me, then this, uh, this is what they meant to do. And we can get so stuck in our heads and not communicate.[00:08:00] 

And, you know, some people have a real knack for creating, like, an entire, uh, opera in their minds. And, um, the story that we have, that we create, or that we have about our partner, is either a story that’s fostering love or destroying love. And part of what makes a couple struggle is because of the stories that they have about each other.

And also the stories that they have about their relationship, because every relationship has a story. And so when we get stuck in these negative stories, and it’s not that, you know, Sometimes they’re the facts of those stories are true and sometimes they’re not. Sometimes they’re literally our neurosis and our fear creating fiction and, um, getting the better of us.

And it doesn’t just happen in relationships. It can happen in all areas of life. And so we just [00:09:00] have to be the, the title of that chapter is the mind is a battlefield. And we have to be aware of what the mind is capable of. So that we are, um, so that our higher awareness or self aware that the more self aware part of our consciousness.

Well, 

Julie: along those lines, you talk about a woman and this is more towards the middle end of the book where you say, um, you’re talking with one of your clients or students and she says to you, gosh, these men that I have been in relationships with failed me. And you said, Ooh, I met her with kindness and compassion.

And then you said to her, they didn’t fail you. you weren’t willing to see the red flags in them early on and let them go. And she [00:10:00] said that she looked at you as if you were telling her Santa didn’t exist. I thought that was so powerful because I grew up watching my mom and my dad really truly believe that their relationship was supposed to complete them, make them whole, be their everything.

And I. I watched from afar as they went in cycles again and again in relationship after relationship. It’s not going to complete you. It’s not going to make you whole. You make yourself whole, but, um, talk about how another person can’t fail you. You have to see those signs early on. 

Jillian: Well, no, I don’t believe that another person can’t fail you.

Julie: Yeah, maybe I worded that wrong. 

Jillian: Yeah, I do believe that people are failing other people all the time. So I do believe that people can fail [00:11:00] you. Um, in this circumstance, it was more her story was all these men keep failing her. 

Julie: When the 

Jillian: wheels, when, when I, what I wanted to encourage her to do was to, um, be open to a new perspective.

And that new perspective is instead of this story of all men are going to fail me, that perhaps the, that what was really going on was that she was, um, ignoring significant red flags, right? Because if you walk away from. If, if your core belief about relationships and love is men are always going to fail me or women are always going to fail me, or I’m always going to be failed, then that removes our responsibility from, from, from the narrative.

Then, then basically you’re doomed. You’re doomed. [00:12:00] Because you want love, you want to be in a relationship, you’re attracted to men or you’re attracted to women, and yet you believe you’re just always going to be failed. Imagine, imagine going through life and all of us are going through life in some way with some sort of core belief that’s in direct opposition with what it is that we actually want.

And that’s what leads to internal conflict. I want love, but love is going to fail me. I need love, but love is going to, um, betray me. And so I had to help her see that that her story was not. Um, All men just fail me because then, then you just feel like a victim constantly. And then you’re never going to get what you want.

I had to see in her particular circumstance, I had to help her see that, um, she was not taking responsibility for the choices that she was making in her [00:13:00] love life. That’s different than being in a relationship with someone who betrays you like really betrays you and in that and when someone betrays you They’re failing you that’s different versus.

Oh, all these men are disappointing me. They’re always failing me And well that you’re not seeing there’s some very significant red flags in the beginning So if you can take ownership of your decisions And see that you actually are more in control of what’s been going on that immediately emancipates you from the internal conflict that you’re stuck in, which is I want love, but it love is going to fail me.

Does that 

Julie: clarify? A hundred percent. A hundred percent. Sorry for miswording that at the beginning. Um, you know, and it’s something that I had at the end here to kind of ask you about in my notes. Uh, People have, they don’t have a lot of time these days, right? And there’s just this wealth of information out there everywhere.

And that [00:14:00] was one of my questions for you. When is a relationship too toxic to continue? And how can people give themselves permission to walk away? 

Jillian: That’s a good question. Um, I’ll start with the low hanging fruit. 

Julie: If 

Jillian: there’s violence, there’s no, there’s nowhere to go from there. Um, there is, you should never, ever, ever stay in a relationship with someone who’s violent with you.

I don’t care. You have to figure out a way which might be very difficult to get out. And some people are really trapped in these circumstances and, um, my heart goes out to them. But, um, If you are privileged enough to be able to leave, uh, that kind of relationship, then you must, um, how do you know relationship is too toxic?[00:15:00] 

Well, I think we have to then define what toxic means. Cause I think that that’s sort of, it’s such an overused term that it’s become sort of watered I think it’s more when there’s a couple of things. One is When do we need to just call it because we’re just not right for each other 

Julie: And 

Jillian: us trying to force a relationship when we’re clearly not right is creating a lot of pain Then there’s the unhealthy that comes with what is referred to as a trauma bond, which is One person might be, um, emotionally abusive, narcissistic, um, perhaps, um, an addict who has not addressed their addiction, in other words, they’re not sober, they’re in their addiction, and then you have the person who maybe didn’t get a lot of love from mom or dad, um, didn’t have, doesn’t have a [00:16:00] lot of, Their self esteem is really low.

And so these two people, they find each other and, and it’s, um, you know, those relationships have to end. Because the person who’s in the relationship with someone who’s not treating them well, um, you have to figure out a way, you have to figure out why you got in this relationship to begin with. And there’s, that’s why I wrote the book because it’s really about self esteem.

Um, but how do you know if it’s just too unhealthy? I mean, or it’s just not right. You know, if you’re just miserable and you’ve taken time to reflect on your part, And even if they were to change, you just, you don’t feel motivated to, to give. And, you know, I don’t believe in people staying in relationships miserable, but I do believe that [00:17:00] if it’s a relationship that has mattered to you and it’s not, and there’s no abuse of any kind, then it definitely behooves someone to, um, Take some time to reflect on how they may be contributing to the dysfunction.

I, I hesitate to answer this question because it’s a very difficult one to answer. And I think that it depends. Are you married for 10, 20 years, or is this someone that you’ve been seeing a year, 

Julie: right? 

Jillian: And I do think that context matters. And I think that when you don’t have a lot invested, certainly after a year, you can feel like so much of your heart is invested.

But you don’t have assets invested. You don’t have kids and, um, you know, you’re just not happy then. Then, then why would you stay? 

Julie: Right. Do people, do you think that [00:18:00] people have this underlying notion that, um, almost a perfectionism within relationships that all relationships should work. Like you should be able to come together with any person and it should be able to work.

And so, A lot of times do we as women feel bad when a relationship doesn’t work and should we completely just reframe that to the points of your your book itself of Not all relationships work and You’re not bad or wrong for relationship not working. You want to find the best relationship for you. You want to focus on yourself, which we’re going to get to because your book does such a great job of bringing a woman or person back home to themselves and focusing in on themselves.

Um, yeah, but I just wondered if you kind of feel we have that underlying. notion of we’re bad or wrong if we [00:19:00] can’t make a relationship work. 

Jillian: Yes, but I don’t believe it’s gendered. I don’t believe this is something that women feel more than men. 

Julie: Really? 

Jillian: No, really. Yeah. From all of your work? No, I think that men feel, um, men, uh, very much like to solve problems.

And if they feel like they can’t solve a problem in a relationship, they feel very much like a failure. 

Julie: And if 

Jillian: a relation doesn’t, relationship doesn’t work, they deal with a lot of shame. A lot, a lot of shame. 

Julie: Um, so, 

Jillian: uh, I don’t think it’s gendered, but I do think that. Yeah, sometimes a relationship works for a certain amount of time and sometimes, you know, we, we get into things blindly and we really want it to work and accepting that it’s just not a match.

difficult and, um, I’m always trying to encourage people to [00:20:00] see that everything is a lesson and it’s not necessarily a failure. But I do think there are certain people who are incredibly hard on themselves that if they couldn’t make a relationship work, that it’s a reflection of them. And, and sometimes, um, you know, sometimes a relationship not working is because.

It just wasn’t, it just, two people who were connected to each other, who were attracted to each other, but weren’t really meant to be in a relationship with each other. And that does happen. 

Julie: You say in the book that you didn’t know early on what you wanted for your life, but you knew you wanted love and you believed, um, that your relationship with your person was more important than your relationship with yourself.

How did you, and I know You go about this in the book, but, um, how did you get to that healthy love [00:21:00] for yourself and, uh, learn how to treat yourself with that love, that care, that kindness first and foremost? Um, 

Jillian: well, it started with deliberately being single and, and focusing on what I really wanted out of life rather than, um, what I thought I was supposed to do in life.

Um, for me specifically, it was about, um, gaining financial independence. It was about reaching my potential. It’s very hard to hold oneself in high esteem. If we know deep down that we are not reaching our potential, whatever that potential is, doesn’t have to be related to a [00:22:00] career at all. And, um,

You know, we need to feel like we’re, um,

like we’re doing something with, with our life. That we’re not just waiting around for someone else. And so, I had to, um,

I had to learn how to stand on my own two feet emotionally and And shift my focus away from a relationship is what’s going to be that completes me. So that was my journey. And so, I learned how to meet my needs. I learned how to meet my needs for certainty. I learned how to meet my needs for feeling important.

I met, learned how to meet my needs for growth. And, and, and that’s what, that’s, that’s what I needed. It was [00:23:00] to feel safer in my body and to feel safer in my life. And not just, um, waste it because I was not, I was under, I was underperforming in my life. I wasn’t, um, like I said, I wasn’t reaching my potential.

Julie: A couple of things, like, like go into that deeper, um, reaching your potential doesn’t just mean career. No. What else does that mean to you? I 

Jillian: think, um, so reaching one’s potential can be anything. That you want to experience in life. Maybe reaching your potential is, um, giving back in some way. I think it’s always includes some sort of giving back.

Um, maybe it’s doing a certain project. Um, it’s beautiful. Yeah, I think this is fair. This is a [00:24:00] very key aspect to self esteem 

Julie: and 

Jillian: it’s not the easiest thing. Um, I believe that we, that everyone is innately worthy

and what’s also going to make us feel better about ourselves. is to not ignore ourselves. 

Julie: To that point, you talk about in the book something that, um, I had to come to this conclusion on in my marriage myself through counseling that I didn’t know how to ask for what I needed for my partner. And you said something to the effect of you didn’t even know that you could ask for your needs to be met.

Um, I think that that is such a huge thing that’s prevalent. And I think it’s going to continue to be prevalent in relationships as the collective comes into a higher vibration. And [00:25:00] as we step into a new energy here on Earth, a lot of people are still working through this. Um, because you can’t ask for your needs to be met if you don’t know what they are.

Jillian: Right. Right. 

Julie: Yeah. Explain this more to people so that they can figure out if they need, if they know what they need in their own life. . 

Jillian: Everyone needs, um, everyone needs love and connection. Everyone needs safety. Everyone needs adventure and fun. Um, everyone needs to give back in some way if they wanna feel truly fulfilled in life.

Um, everyone needs to grow so you, every individual needs to figure out what they need in order to feel loved in a relationship and in life what they need to feel like they’re growing. What they need to feel important, what they need to feel safe. [00:26:00] Um, while at the same time giving, being able to give themselves those things too.

Um, but it is, um, sometimes where I think a lot of people, this is where I think a lot of women get tripped up is okay. So this is what I, let’s say she defines what it is that she needs to feel loved. What a lot of women will do. The game that they will play with themselves is. But wait, is that okay?

Should I be asking you for that? Yeah.

And sometimes what you have to do is speak to people who are more confident than you in this area 

Julie: to 

Jillian: give you some feedback to see how they express themselves.[00:27:00] 

Sometimes you have to, um, read some books so that you can really validate. That within yourself and one way to validate it is also to make sure that you know how to meet those needs as well You can’t go into a relationship Having absolutely no way or no resources and no understanding of how to fill yourself up Like you really you don’t have to feel completely whole to get into a relationship.

That’s one of the biggest myths ever And you can’t go to a relationship absolutely with no tools on how to feel good and then go into the relationship with the expectation that the other person’s supposed to make you feel good with with you having no idea how to do that. Yeah, so I think um, so that’s that’s part of it and [00:28:00] um that confidence that comes with no No, this is how I like to be loved and this is what’s really important to me.

And i’m i’m equally as invested in in Meeting your needs to be loved but this is this is a non negotiable for me to arrive to that kind of confidence Might mean talking to some people it might mean reading a biography of a of a person Uh, like a woman who you feel connected to and seeing how she operated in the world.

Like we learn, we have something called mirror neurons. So we learn by observing others. And, um, I’ve learned many things by, by looking at people who, um, I feel like they have a lot of confidence in one area of life. And I’m like, wow, they’re doing this. I can do that too. 

Julie: Yeah, yeah. That’s beautiful. Yeah.

It’s interesting, when I was doing this work myself in my relationship, um, I would go in and just [00:29:00] get into that soft space of oneness and meditation and every day ask myself, what do I need? Because I found for myself it changes. Every day, as I would do that, um, I also felt a deepening with my own intuition as well, that as I would just tune in and reflect on what I need, I could hear my own inner wisdom more clearly.

Jillian: I love that. Yeah. Yeah. So that’s a wonderful tool. Wake up every morning and just get quiet, close your eyes and just say, what do I need today? 

Julie: Digging a little deeper, I wondered if you have seen this as well. I feel like with working with so many clients, um, You just see patterns, and I believe that there are a lot of people, for one of two reasons that I can find, um, have a really hard time [00:30:00] feeling within the body.

And if we can’t feel in the body to begin with, it’s hard to get to some of the root of what’s going on. Um, a lot of us, Uh, our ADHD maybe mask as a child who we are, um, and learn not to feel as much, but kind of mimic other people’s behavior to fit in. Um, and then there are some people who are so maybe hurt or shamed in their younger years, kind of learn that it doesn’t feel good to feel within the physical body, so they turn it off.

Um, I’m wondering how you start with people who have a hard time tuning in to the physical body and what they’re feeling to begin with, to take steps, um, to feel in a safe way. 

Jillian: It’s always going to be movement. It’s always going to be movement. Um, it’s stretching [00:31:00] and, uh, uh, getting very acquainted with your respiratory system, your breath.

Um, It’s walking, maybe it’s running, it’s dancing. So, um, our bodies are incredible instruments. It’s, um, it might be having like a warm meal and then journaling how that feels 

Julie: to 

Jillian: have that sort of warm meal. 

Julie: Um,

Jillian: so we’re connecting, you know, brain and heart. It could be as simple as, Let’s place one hand across the heart center, which is like the sternum area and one hand on your belly and lie down and close your eyes and just breathe into both hands. Um, so [00:32:00] you can start slow, but, um, it’s always going to be through, through movement.

And then it might just be, if you’re experiencing an emotion, you can sort of. say, Oh, I wonder a really powerful exercises. Where do I feel this emotion right now? Do I feel it in my chest? Do I feel it in my back? Well, it just doesn’t have to be a negative emotion. I, in fact, it’s nice to, it’s nice. It’s better to start with positive emotion.

Julie: Ooh, love it. 

Jillian: Yeah, so if you’re like laughing or happy, it’s like, okay, where do I, where do I feel that like joy right now? What do I feel? Do I feel tingling somewhere?

So there’s a, there’s um, uh, there’s a habit of [00:33:00] people being like, okay, let’s go right to the negative emotion and try to fix it. If you want to connect. Your to your body connect to it through positive emotion and start to build the muscle that way. 

Julie: Oh, that’s beautiful It’s beautiful in a similar way.

You talk about touch in the book and how touch is so calming to our nervous system Yes Some people are single listening to this. Is there like self touch? Just giving ourselves hugs or holding our own hand or putting our you can 

Jillian: give you can certainly give yourself hugs for sure I would try to get it from friends, um, and family.

If you have the means, get a massage or, you know, go to yeah, get a massage, get acupuncture, whatever it is. So that someone is actually touching you. 

Julie: I 

Jillian: think that’s very healing. And yes, you can give yourself a hug. It’s not going to be the same, but um, it is [00:34:00] something that you absolutely can do for yourself.

But yeah, it’s very important. I don’t even care if you go and go get yourself a foot massage somewhere. Yeah. You know, like a really inexpensive foot massage at some place. That will help. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 

Julie: Absolutely. Yeah. And it’s fun. I love how you’re, in your book, you talk about fun, like hugging more and just play and having fun.

It felt so good when I read that. My energy just lifted and it felt so, so vibrant. Oh, that’s wonderful. Yeah. Um, how have you found incorporating play and fun into the relationship? Do you guys make a conscious effort to do that, uh, each week? Um, Well, 

Jillian: I, well, currently I’m not in a relationship, but, but yes, play is something that’s really, really important to me.

Um, I love to dance. I, you know, I can’t. I once broke up with a guy because he [00:35:00] just couldn’t access that. And, uh, so that’s really important to me. But I think, you know, one thing that I want to add to this is,

Julie: Ooh, 

Jillian: I know, sorry, it’s my dog. 

Julie: Good. We love dogs here. 

Jillian: I know. Many people write in to me and say, you know, I’ve been with my husband or I’ve been with my wife for, you know, seven plus years, whatever. And the spark is gone. What do I do? Oftentimes that happens because of boredom because we’ve gotten so stuck in a routine and everything is so predictable.

And what can really bring the spark back is engaging in activities that are dopamine producing activities. 

Julie: So 

Jillian: you do some things [00:36:00] that are fun, maybe a little dangerous, not, not dangerous for your wealth. Just, just a little bit, just a little bit, like, wow, we’re doing something crazy. 

Julie: Like that time a couple months ago when my husband and I were going to see a movie and there was a train track and a train on it.

And we couldn’t like, it would not. Move and we were going to be late to our movie. So my husband’s like, come on. And we just went up and over like the, I was freaking out the entire time. Is it going to start to move? Um, but it was like, uh, one of those where it had steps, you could just go up and go over real quick.

Yeah, that was a little dopamine inducing. 

Jillian: After you got to the other side of that, wasn’t there something like thrilling? It was. Yeah. Yeah. That’s, that’s bonding. Mmm. Yes. That’s bonding. And so, um, but what I would [00:37:00] suggest is, yeah, I, it’s not about once a week schedule something fun. It’s like, how can you be playful in the day to day?

Julie: Mm hmm. Well, you know, I gotta be better at this. My husband is Just fun me. Um, he’s so quick witted. I mean, he just, he comes up with stuff and it takes me 30 seconds to a minute. So there’s a delayed reaction, but it’s hysterical. Um, Sometimes, you know, you, you talk in the book about how it’s not just one or two of us.

We all don’t feel worthy. And that’s so resonated with me because there’s been so many times in my relationship where I look at him and I’m like, I’m not good enough for him. Like he is so fast and he’s so quick with it and like it takes me a while to catch up and I’ve got a dry sense of humor that I’ll bust out every once in a while.

He deserves, he’s so hysterical, he deserves to have [00:38:00] somebody who’s constantly, like, making him laugh. Um, See how 

Jillian: that, how that whole narrative can really mess with you? 

Julie: Yes. Yeah. Yeah, a hundred percent. It can really, 

Jillian: yeah, everyone fears that some, that they’re not enough in some way. Everyone. 

Julie: Yeah. So tell people how they work with that, that worthiness.

Jillian: Well, like, for example, the story that you just, um, Shared I think it’s well, the first step is always awareness. It’s like, oh, this is me not Feeling enough like this is this is coming up

You know, it’s always about room and like it like what you just shared. It’s always about reminding ourselves like what no, no No, this is this is what I have so much to offer Like you have to know what you are what you have to offer 

Julie: Yeah, [00:39:00] 

Jillian: and and remind yourself of that often And, and, and be in relationship with people who are, who acknowledge that in you, that’s super important.

And so I think that part of working with it is also. How is my insecurity about this interfering? 

Julie: This is going to come out, uh, the day before Valentine’s day, um, to anybody who is single looking for a relationship, anybody who’s in a relationship wanting to go even deeper with that love and that bond and that connection and their partnership.

What advice do you have for those two women? 

Jillian: Okay. So let’s do the first woman who’s single and alone. Do not. Pay any attention to Valentine’s Day. It’s just a day [00:40:00] It’s designed to make it so that you feel bad about yourself Like and and and if you want to celebrate it celebrate it with a friend like anyone can be your Valentine Anyone can be your Valentine.

Um, and so what I would say to that woman is also What are some things that you can do? To number one, make it get closer to being in a relationship and number two, make it so that you are not suffering until you find someone. So maybe it’s going on a dating app, but maybe it’s really thinking outside of the box.

Maybe it’s messaging someone and take and making that first move. Maybe it’s, um, it’s. Examining a belief that you have that is holding you back. [00:41:00] We have to be very ambitious about the things that we want. Aw, let me see. Aw, I want it up. . Aw. And so

are you single because you just haven’t met anyone yet? Are you single because you think all the good ones are taken? Are you single because you haven’t left your couch? Think of just evaluate what, what it is. Um, and then what are, what are one or two things you can start doing today that makes it so that you’re not suffering until you need someone.

And then for the people who want to deepen their love, may Valentine’s Day be a reminder of like things that you should be considering to do, um, every day. So if you’re going to do something nice, like the flowers, the chocolate, um, Let that be a weekly thing. [00:42:00] Because the quality of a relationship is really determined by the quality of rituals two people have.

Julie: Your 

Jillian: rituals define your relationship. 

Julie: So, 

Jillian: when you, if you, if you don’t work at home and you’ve got, or you’re apart during the day, one person goes to work, whatever it is. When you see each other after a day of not seeing each other, or after a few hours. How do you greet each other? Um, how do you talk to each other over the dinner table?

Julie: Yeah. 

Jillian: Um, what’s the thing that you do first thing in the morning? Your rituals define your relationship. So make your, your rituals better, more consistent. Your relationship will get better, deeper, and more consistent. 

Julie: You know, my grandma used to always say this thing, um, Look for the guy who loves you more than you love them.

Yeah, it’s a 

Jillian: [00:43:00] very old school thing. 

Julie: As I’ve kind of watched different relationship folks throughout the years, experts, um, There’s so much of people talking about what you can get out of the relationship, how to maximize it, to what you benefit from. And I love in your work how you talk about working on yourself and the focus on yourself.

And there’s so much focus in there on just being the love and really what you give as well. Yeah. And I think that, that in and of itself. Self makes you feel full and so I want to thank you for the work that you do because I feel like it’s so Powerful and the way that you say things in the book is unlike anything that I see anywhere else So thank you for the book that you birthed into this world.

I think it’s so needed right now 

Jillian: Thank you so much. That’s very kind of you. Appreciate it. 

Julie: [00:44:00] Jillian, tell everybody where they can find you and your new book. 

Jillian: Yeah. So, um, basically my book, JillianTarecki. com slash book. Um, I’m all over social media. 

Julie: Amazing. Thank you so much. We’ll put all of the links to that in the show notes below.

Thank 

Jillian: you so much for having me. 

Julie: Of course.

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