Hello beautiful souls! After her brother was killed by a suicide bomber in Afghanistan, Annie Sklaver Orenstein was heartbroken and unmoored. Standing in the grief section of her local bookstore, she searched for guides on how to work through her grief as a mourning sibling—and found nothing. More than 4 million American adults each year will lose a sibling, yet there isn’t a modern resource guide available that speaks directly to this type of grief that at times can be overshadowed by grieving parents and spouses and made even more difficult by the complexities of sibling dynamics. Annie joins us to give you a practical, compassionate guide to sibling loss with proven, research-based strategies.

To learn more about Annie Orenstein’s work:
AnnieOrenstein.com
Annie’s book Always a Sibling is available at all major book retailers
[IG] @anniesklaverorenstein

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Julie Jancius: Want to know what’s coming up on today’s episode? Here’s a preview.

Annie Orenstein: Everything from increased rates of depression and a more severe depression, more of a chance of things like complicated grief or prolonged grief disorder, delayed grief. There are 15 different commonly recognized forms of grief, and one of them is resilient grief. And that’s where you can kind of move through it.

Julie Jancius: Hello, beautiful souls. You’re listening to the Angels and Awakening podcast. I’m, your host and author, Julie Jancius. Did you know that you can listen to this show everywhere podcasts are found? It’s true. Now I have three free gifts just for you. First gift, I give away a new reading each week to a person who’s left a five star positive review of this show, then submitted it to me using the contact form@theangelmedium.com. contact I hope I’m calling your number next. Second gift. If you’d like a new daily angel message, join me on insta at angelpodcast. Third free gift. If you’d like to know the name of one of your guardian angels so that you can work with them even more closely, go to the homepage of my website, theangelmedium.com, and submit your contact info at the very top. I’ll email you back personally with the name of one of your Angels. Okay, as we begin the show, I want you to feel the presence of your Angels surrounding you. And just know that the loving, positive messages you resonate with today are messages for you from your Angels and loved ones on the other side. Hello, beautiful souls. Welcome back to the Angels in Awakening podcast. I’m your host and author, Julie Jancius. And friends, today we have an angel story from author Annie Orenstein. She’s the author of the new book. It’s called always a sibling the Forgotten Mourners Guide to grief. A practical, compassionate guide to sibling loss with research, stories and strategies from someone who’s been here. Oh, Annie, just reading the title, it touches my heart. Thank you so much for being you. And thank you for being here with us today.

Annie Orenstein: Thank you so much for having me.

Julie Jancius: So on the podcast. Of course. Love that you’re here on the podcast. What we do is we often share angel stories where we know, like we know, like, we know that our loved ones, they’ve crossed over, but they are still here with us today. Can you explain a little bit about your brother’s passing and any angel stories that you’ve gotten signs from him?

Annie Orenstein: Yes, absolutely. So my brother, he’s my oldest brother. I have two older brothers. He’s the eldest of us all. He was in the reserves, the army reserves, and was called up on a stop loss order to Afghanistan. It was his second deployment, and he was deployed in July of 2009. On October 2 of 2009, he was killed by a suicide bomber. And so it was just, I think, almost exactly three months into his deployment, you know, I didn’t see or feel or sense any signs for a very long time. I, was very closed off to it. And it wasn’t until almost ten years after he died that a friend really convinced me to be open to the idea that he could be. There could be signs, there could be messages.

Julie Jancius: We have to stop here and backtrack. So why are you closed off for ten years? And what could your friend have possibly said to open you up?

Annie Orenstein: I just didn’t believe that it was possible. I think his end was extremely violent. You know, we were not allowed to open the coffin. We were not, you know, allowed to even try to identify the body or the remains. And so I think in my mind, he was shattered, he was destroyed. And I didn’t really consider there being any other options. I think I’m a very logical person, and I’m also very much like, if I can’t see it, I can’t

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Annie Orenstein: necessarily feel like it was true, which made his passing very difficult, because I maintained that what if the army had made a mistake? We don’t know if it’s him in this coffin that was returned to us, right? How do we even know he’s gone? And so I think there was a lot that I had to go through and I had to process before I could even imagine that there was any piece of him left. I didn’t grow up in a family that necessarily. I don’t think it was necessarily, like, non believers, but it just wasn’t a thing. You know, it wasn’t really a thing that was ever kind of talked about. There would be things that reminded me of him, of course, you know, but I didn’t think they were signs from him. I thought it was just, oh, that reminds me of my brother. In hindsight, I think they were. Now, I think they were. I talk about in my book, this movie, the man with two brains, starring Steve Martin, where his wife has died, and he’s staring at her portrait on the wall, and he’s like, if you’ll please send me a sign, any kind of sign, I’ll be here. And the portraits start spinning, and the lights are flickering, and suddenly there’s wind in this room where there are no windows open, you know, and his hair is blowing all around, and things are falling off the wall, and finally everything. Ah. And you hear her voice, right? Like, talking to him. And finally everything calms down, and he’s disheveled, and the painting is off center and everything. And he just looks up and says, any sign, I’ll be here. I’ll be waiting. And, like, that was me, you know? I think in a lot of ways, my brother was, like, doing all of those things, and I was just like, okay, let me know if you want to talk, you know? And he’s, like, smashing me over the head with it. So eventually, I couldn’t really deny it anymore. But I have a very good friend who. Who believed very strongly in all of this and also lost a brother. And she kind of said, like, there’s no harm in trying and thinking about it and opening yourself up to it. And I was like, I don’t even know how I would do it. I don’t know what I would do. And she said, well, just ask for a sign. And it can be simple. You can ask for. Show you blue flowers. And I was like, okay. So I did it, you know, begrudgingly. And the next day, I’m walking to work, or maybe a few days later, and I saw some blue flowers, and I thought, well, that’s just the power of suggestion. They were probably always there, and I just didn’t notice it until I started looking for blue flowers. This is not a sign. And then a few days later, I went to see my psychiatrist, who is this older woman from queens with, like, a thick New York accent. And I walk in, and I’m not joking, she was wearing, like, doc Martin style combat boots with blue flowers embroidered on them, a shirt with blue flowers all over it. And I just took one look at her and started laughing, like. And I was like, okay, I got it. I understand, you know? And that was. That was my, like, Steve Martin spitting portrait moment where I was like, okay, if this, like, 75 year old woman is wearing these boots, like, okay, you’ve gotten through. Wow.

Julie Jancius: Oh, my goodness. And it is. I mean, sometimes it’s subtle, but it strikes you, and it’s profound, and it’s deep all at the same time. As we’re recording this, I just had a friend and coworker, a woman on my team, Cheryl Harris, who passed away last week. And, it’s. Thank you. We’ve had, It’s just been a really, really tough week. You know, you just. When you’re in grief, you just feel like you’re under 30ft of water and your body just feels completely different. But she used to always use the saying that some of the other healers have been talking about where she would go, Julie, I’m your ride or die. You know, like, and that’s not like a saying that I use, but it’s a saying that she used to all the time. Julia, I’m here. And I, I really believe that she. I wanted to believe it. I wanted to believe that she was going to be here until she was 105. I wanted her to be around for forever. But we were just meeting for this tv show right before you and I hopped on here and out of nowhere one of the producers used that phrase and I was like, okay, cheryl’s here. Because the last conversation I had with her, she was like, I’m helping. I’m, making sure this goes through from the other side. This show needs to be out there to just get hope out to everybody. And she’s like, I’m helping. So for it to come through in there

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Julie Jancius: was just, oh, my God, it just like melted my heart. And the producer didn’t even know what they said, but here I’m just starting to cry.

Annie Orenstein: Right, right. I mean, yes. My therapist was like, what’s funny? Like, I don’t understand, you know, like, sorry, you were just a conduit for that message.

Julie Jancius: Yes, yes. So I gotta ask you this too, because your brother’s saying that your mom’s gotten a lot of angel stories and that, and I don’t want you to, like, overstep if you don’t want to share those. But there have been some bigger signs that he’s brought through, to the family.

Annie Orenstein: That’s so interesting. I don’t, I don’t know. She’s nothing. She doesn’t talk about that very often. But now I’m going to ask her.

Julie Jancius: Okay. Yeah, I want you to. I want you to. So I know that your book kind of goes through this, but you talk about the research of sibling loss, stories of sibling loss, sibling loss. You know, we’ve got over 600 episodes of this podcast. It’s not something that comes up all the time. And there aren’t a lot of resources out there for sibling loss. Talk to us about the research and what you found along the way.

Annie Orenstein: Yeah. So when my brother died, I went looking for a book that would help me, and I have this very strong memory. I went to the Barnes and Noble in Union Square in New York City because it was the biggest bookstore I could think of. And I thought, well, it will be here. And I went to the grief section, and there was nothing. There are books on losing parents and spouses and children and pets, but there was nothing about siblings. And I even looked in, like, the index of some of the books, you know, maybe there’s a chapter on siblings, and there was nothing. And what I took away from that was, I guess I’m supposed to be fine, right? If there’s this huge industry, publishing, right? This huge industry, and grief is clearly a big seller. Everyone always needs grief books. And if there is nothing, no modern resource, you know, it’s talked about in memoirs and in some really exquisite memoirs, but. But there was nothing in the more practical side about it. And so my takeaway was, I’m being overdramatic. I guess I’m not supposed to be so upset, but I think I always kind of knew that that wasn’t true. Like, it was confusing to me because I thought, but of course I’m upset. This is the person who knows me better than anyone else. And, you know, not only do our siblings know us so well, but they know why we are the way we are, right? They know why we do this weird thing or have this weird habit, right? Because our parents did it. Sometimes we don’t even know why we did it, but our siblings know why we do it, right? He was eight years older than me. He had a better memory of my childhood than I do.

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Annie Orenstein: And so, while on the one hand, I felt like I was being told to get over it, on the other hand I was like, but this is significant. And professionally, I’m a researcher, and I work in tech, and I, do qualitative research. And research was kind of the language I know how to speak, and it was a way that I could approach this topic and that I could feel a little comfortable with. Like, I think I could kind of hide behind it a little bit when I needed to, and I lean on some of those other things. And. And I also knew that my experience in loss was very unique and

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Annie Orenstein: that it wasn’t going to resonate with everyone, but there is nothing else out there. And so I wanted people to see their stories reflected back. I wanted people, you know, who struggled with addiction and mental health issues and prolonged illnesses to see their stories as well. And so I knew that I needed to get other voices and other people’s stories in the book. And so that was really the primary research that I did through surveys and through in depth interviews was, you know, being very mindful to ensure a range of perspectives, different ethnicities, different relationship types, people who didn’t have good relationships with their siblings, older siblings, younger siblings, all of those things. But then I also wanted to know kind of, what’s the like? What does the academic literature say? Right. There’s. There’s a lot of studies on grief and the impact of grief, and one of the most surprising things was there was very little. You know, there are kind of a handful of studies on sibling loss, and they all end, you know, kind of the recommendations or the summaries, I’ll say, like an incredibly significant loss. It’s a profound loss. It has long term physical and mental health implications for the surviving sibling. And more studies need to be done because it’s not researched enough. That’s kind of how they all end, is. Like, this is a big deal. We don’t know more about it, and, we should really know more about it, but we still don’t know a lot about it. But it was very kind of universal that, like, no, this has really significant outcomes for the survivors.

Julie Jancius: And what is that like? What does that look like? Physical implications? Mental health implications?

Annie Orenstein: Yeah. I mean, everything from increased rates of depression and a more severe depression, more, of a chance of things like complicated grief or, prolonged grief disorder, a delayed grief. You know, there are 15 different commonly recognized forms of grief, and one of them is resilient grief, and that’s where you can kind of move through it. Siblings are more likely to experience a lot of those more difficult forms of grief that come from their grief being diminished or ignored or having to put their own grief aside to take care of their family. And so they often experience those different forms of grief that come later, but it can also health issues like increased cortisol and everything that that can. Can lead to along with headaches, GI issues, a lost sense of taste and smell was like a possible outcome of grief and prolonged grief, a lot of PTSD. And so everything that comes with PTSD and nightmares and panic, and those are even, a lot of those negative outcomes can be even stronger if that loss is experienced in adolescents. And, there really is a belief that a lot of that comes from the grief being repressed, and really repressing that grief in our body has these long term health implications because of the hormones that are then surging and the cortisol levels that are surging. So there are biological explanations for it and why it gets worse as it suppressed like that. And so it’s a nasty combination of social factors that lead to it being suppressed, and then the outcome of that.

Julie Jancius: Suppression, which is a fascinating take that we actually haven’t looked at on this podcast. But I imagine that it crosses the lines not just of sibling loss, but of the mother who loses a child. There are physical implications, mental health implications. The person who loses their spouse, there has to be for everybody. But I can see with siblings how, you know, sometimes, for the first time in your life, when you’re that impacted as a parent, losing a child, oftentimes I could see where siblings would step in to support the parent and uphold the family at that time. That makes tons of sense.

Annie Orenstein: Oh, and to that point, yeah, sibling losses is often referred to as a dual loss because, to your point, you know, the parents are grieving, and you do lose. I, your parents, in a way. You know, your parents are never the same as they were before, because no one could ever

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Annie Orenstein: be the same after losing a child as they were before. And so not only have you just lost your sibling, but in many ways, you are witnessing the loss of your parents because they are not able to support you. If they were a parent who could support you before, which is not a given, but if they were, they’re not going to be able to do it now. You know, if they were already struggling to be supportive of you before this, then they’re definitely not going to be able to be supportive of you now. And you are kind of left picking up a lot of the pieces. So there is, an element of sibling loss that is that dual loss, of losing not only your sibling, but in many ways, losing a big part of your parenthood. A lot of people said things to me like, I never saw my mom smile. I have not seen my mom smile the way she used to since my sibling died. You know, my parents don’t laugh as much as they used to. and so that element of it is another loss that people are coping with.

Julie Jancius: Absolutely. You talked about the 15 different types of, grief. Can we go through some of those briefly? Because I think it’d be really, really helpful for the audience to just hear you mentioned complicated grief, delayed grief, resilient grief, maybe. Could we go through each one just briefly?

Annie Orenstein: Yes, absolutely. So. So resilient grief is kind of that grief that where you’re able to move forward, there is continued momentum, there is forward progress. It’s not a denial of the loss. You know, you’re not kind of masking it, but you are able to often make meaning or, you know, find something out of it that keeps you going.

Julie Jancius: And the special needs community has really found that. There’s studies on the special needs community, and also child loss. And that a lot of times it’s upwards of, I want to say, 80% to 90% of couples who end up getting divorced if they have a child with certain, like, medical complications or very heavy needs, or after child loss. And you often find that the couples go in two very different directions. One needs to find purpose and meaning out of it all, and the other one is just completely broken and shattered. And I feel like oftentimes in the stories that I’ve heard resents the person who finds the purpose and the meaning of, and kind of, not that they don’t like it, but that they want that person to kind of be with them in their grief. Not understanding that, really, grief looks different to different people.

Annie Orenstein: And that, you know, kind of the framing in the book. The reason that I explain these 15 types of grief is because grief is extremely unique. And, people often don’t understand that there are multiple types of grief. And so, to your point, like, that person who’s a little more resentful might feel like the person who is making meaning or taking action, they are grieving wrong, they’re doing something wrong in it, and the person who’s finding meaning feels like the other person is doing something wrong. And so, part of why I explain all of this is because grief is so unique that if you’re not grieving the same way your parents are or your other siblings are, or even just the way you expected yourself to grieve, that’s one more thing to be really hard on yourself about. Right. And some of these types of grief, like complicated grief, or it’s now known as prolonged grief disorder, that’s like a real fixation on, griefen and difficulty accepting the loss. This painful combination of bitterness, anger, yearning. And that really requires, like, professional help, right. If you’re suffering from something like prolonged grief disorder, it’s really important that you are working with a therapist. There’s often PTSD involved, and so it’s important to know, okay, there’s no wrong way to grieve, but if I’m experiencing some of these, this isn’t just like, normal, resilient grief. And I actually might need a little more help.

Julie Jancius: But there are some people, like, because we have this in my family, there are some people who, like, maybe not the bitterness. What is the anger part? Because some people get so angry, and they’re angry at you, and they’re going to take every last bit of it out on you, and they’re just going to continually, verbally diarrhea, of the mouth all over you and beat you down until you have no choice

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Julie Jancius: but to not communicate with that person because it’s such horrible verbal harassment.

Annie Orenstein: So, first of all, I’m really sorry that. That, yeah. Family and in your life. But it’s interesting. So anger and the level of anger and the ferocity, for lack of a better word, of that anger was something that a lot of people talked about in my research that really surprised them. They were shocked by how angry they were. They were almost frightened by how angry they were. People who are like, I’m not an angry person. I did not know I could feel this emotion. I don’t think that’s what you’re talking about. But I do think anger is like, a big thing that people don’t necessarily expect or see coming. But maybe what you’re talking about, and I should say, I’m not a therapist, so I’m, not here to diagnose anyone, but there are two types. So there’s something called distorted grief, where the grief really does change your behavior, which often leads to increased self destructive behavior, like this extreme reaction. And exaggerated grief is like grief on steroids, where there is disruptive behavior, and there’s often, like, substance abuse, things like abnormal fears, and it can lead to thoughts of suicide or self harm, or it can even lead to the emergence of a psychiatric disorder. So when we talk about kind of long term implications of grief, you know, this is one that can kind of trigger other psychiatric disorders, and it really does change the way a person acts and the way that a person treats other people, which obviously does not make it okay in any way. But I thought it was interesting because there was someone I taught, one of my interviews. His brother had been struggling with substance abuse and with alcohol. And I. He was saying that after his brother died, he became an alcoholic, ended up in rehab. And I asked, you know, if you saw this destroy your brother’s life, why do you think you did it? You know, and it was so interesting to me that someone, when they saw it happening, would take on the same kind of self destructive behavior. And he described it. I’ll never forget this, he described it as some sort of hellish Empathy where he just wanted to understand. He wanted to understand so badly that he found himself doing the exact same thing. And I think that’s, you know, just an example of one way in which it can really, really change our behaviors and turn us into someone who we other otherwise would not have been.

Julie Jancius: Wow, that’s. That’s fascinating. I would have never guessed that, but that’s really interesting and explains a lot. So we have resilient grief, prolonged grief disorder, disordered grief. What else?

Annie Orenstein: I think another one that comes up a lot with siblings is delayed grief, delayed grief, and disenfranchised grief, which are kind of different, and I’ll go through them separately, but delayed grief is kind of like when you hit the snooze button on grief and you find yourself years later feeling like this loss just happened. So there was kind of like, nothing. I’ll deal with this. You know, I have to help my parents right now. I have to help maybe my nieces and nephews. I have to do these other things. And so you just don’t process it, but you can’t continue like that forever. And at some point, it catches up with you, and then you have this delayed grief. And what, I heard from some siblings, Washington, they would have this moment of reckoning where it would be five, six, seven years after their loss. And their parents, they realized that their parents could talk about their sibling with a smile on their face. They could recount stories, they could talk about them openly, and the surviving sibling could not. The surviving sibling still couldn’t say their name without crying. And it was often because they just never dealt with their own grief. They were very busy taking care of other people, and so they’d have this moment where they were like, oh, my parents have worked through something that I have not. And then there’s disenfranchised grief, which is also very common with siblings, which is when the griever isn’t validated in their grief. You know, it’s the experience of walking into Barnes and noble, and there is no sibling loss book. Their loss isn’t validated and this can happen. It happens very often to siblings. The best example, I think, the kind of most, like, spot on example I can give,

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Annie Orenstein: is that, pretty much every sibling I talked to had the same complaint, which is people don’t ask how I’m doing, they ask how my parents are doing. No one calls to check on me. People call and say, how’s your mom? How’s your dad? How are your parents? You know, but they don’t ask about me. And that’s an example of disenfranchised grief. Disenfranchised grief can also happen often based on the cause of death. And this is a big reason why, you know, I wanted to have so many other stories in the book, because the way my family was treated after my brother died was very different than what would have happened if he had died of, you know, an overdose or if he had taken his life or. Or even an illness. But especially when a loss is more taboo. I’m doing air quotes for anyone listening. But, you know, when it is things having to do with mental health or substance abuse, the whole family’s grief can be disenfranchised. You know, people don’t want to talk about it. They don’t want to talk about suicide, and so. Or there’s kind of victim blaming. Right. And so they don’t give the family the space to grieve. And so siblings in that position, it’s kind of a double whammy where they are. Their grief is often disenfranchised or ignored altogether.

Julie Jancius: Yeah, it’s fascinating. It’s really, really fascinating. There’s so many different ways that I want to go. Spirit saying, to tell you that when it comes to the delayed grief, we have a spiritual type support group in our membership. And after Cheryl passed, we promised her, or before she passed, we promised her that we would keep that going. And we are keeping that going. But we had so many people who would come in, and there’s dozens of people that hop on that call monthly, but they all say so many people. It’s ten years that this person has passed, but I feel like I’m just able to grieve it now. It’s five years, it’s three years, but I feel like I’m just able to grieve, grieve it now. Julie, am I able to come into this group? Absolutely. Because that’s what it’s there for. And you’re not alone. We see that all the time. Annie, your. Your book is just so powerful. Your work is so powerful. I’m so appreciative of the person that you are. Any advice to those who are skeptics like the former Annie, on, how signs might open them up if they allow themselves to see them?

Annie Orenstein: Yeah. So I think the whole way the book is structured is with, without and within. And with is really processing that sibling relationship, and the value of the sibling relationship and without is that acute grief. But within is how to regain a sense of their presence in your life and how to have a new relationship with them moving forward in whatever way that looks like. And I think for a lot of people, that involves signs and. And, ah, so I do kind of talk about, like, opening yourself up to it a lot, doing the blue flower exercise. Right. And what it came down to for me. so maybe this will help others, was, I decided, maybe it is pure coincidence. I will never know. But what I do know is that, you know, when his favorite song comes on the radio, I often feel like I get signs, usually through music. The way I kind of landed on it is it doesn’t really matter if it’s from him or not. When these things happen, I remember him in a positive way. I remember the way he lived. I remember the way that he made me feel and the joy that he brought to my life. And I get a bit of that joy back. And maybe it’s a, you know, power of suggestion or placebo effect, but a placebo effect is still an effect. Like, placebo effect still can help with symptoms, can help with all of these things. And so I just kind of decided, like, it doesn’t actually matter if it’s real or not. What matters is that I have opened myself up, to his present, continuing past his death. And in any way that I can still feel or sense that presence, it feels like a gift. And so I’m going to look for those opportunities, and I’m not going to question it, because it makes me feel good and it brings me joy. And that’s enough.

Julie Jancius: I don’t think you could have said that better. That was so beautiful.

Annie Orenstein: Annie.

Julie Jancius: Share the title of your book one more time where everybody can find you. The book. we’ll put it. It all in the show notes below.

Annie Orenstein: Awesome. The book is called always a sibling, the forgotten Mourners guide to grief. It’s available everywhere books are sold.

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Annie Orenstein: And you can find me on Instagram, at Annie Sclaverborenstein.

Julie Jancius: Amazing. We’re going to put all that in the show notes. Thank you so much for being here, Annie, and to everybody listening. If you have an angel story that you would like to share. We would absolutely love to have you on the show. Go over to theangelmedium.com, use the contact form and submit your story. If you ever have trouble with that, you can always email us@julietheangelmediam.com. dot love you friends.

Annie Orenstein: Thank you Annie thank you so much friends.

Julie Jancius: I need your help reaching as many people as possible. If you’d like to support this podcast and help us spread more hope to the world, please book a session with me, join my angel membership or take my angel Reiki school. What’s the difference? If you’d like to know what messages your Angels and loved ones have for you, you’ll want to book a session with me. The angel membership is all about your own personal spiritual healing. The membership takes you on a spiritual journey that teaches you how to create your own heaven on earth. And the Angel Reiki school is for those who want to get certified in mediumship, angel messages and energy healing all at once. These are three ways you can support us so that we can reach more people with a message of hope and love. These are three ways you can help us share a message of hope and love with more people than ever before. Register for one or all three at ah theangelmedium.com dot. That’s theangelmedium.com. now let’s pray together as we do. I want you to pray in a way where you feel as though everything you want for yourself and the world has already come true and you’re giving thanks. Why? Because this is the best way to manifest. So let’s begin. God, Universe Source thank you. We’re so grateful that you’ve blessed this world with calm and peace for all. This calm and peace has spread like ripples soothing the hearts of every Soul. Thank you for opening our hearts to abundance, allowing each of us to live our most authentic life and helping us to create our own heaven on earth. We thank you for the love and deep heart to heart connection that surrounds us every day in our relationships. We thank you for the abundance of health and aliveness we feel radiating from every cell in our and our families bodies. Thank you for the gift of walking this life with us and guiding us every step of the way through your messages. We hear you through our own intuition and we feel you walking right by our sides and we overflow with gratitude. Thank you for financial abundance and abundance of opportunities, miracles, blessings and prosperity in every way. We know that you want us to succeed so that we can show others how you want them to succeed too. Thank you for the boundless love, kindness, Empathy and compassion that binds us all together. Thank you for the laughter, fun moments of pure delight that fill us every day, especially today. God Universe Source thank you for blessing us beyond measure and allowing us to use our souls gifts, talents, skills and abilities to serve the world. We love you. I love you and in this we pray. Amen. Friends, we’re working on some pretty major things over here and if you wouldn’t mind saying a little prayer that these things come to fruition, if they’re God’s will, we’d so appreciate it. And please add a little prayer in for any specific thing you need right now too. Have a beautiful blessed day and don’t forget to submit your contact info@theangelmedium.com. if you’d like me to channel the name of one of your Angels for you sending you peace, bliss and many blessings.

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